REDFeather MIND | BODY | SPIRIT 7 lives, and each individual is born with a unique per- sonality with its own set of interests, skills, and pref- erences. But the fact remains: We all have the same psychological potential. The same emotions, drives, instincts, archetypes, and goals. And when we repress any of these to fit cultural stereotypes, we do our souls a great disservice. Every psyche contains two basic drives—a yin force and a yang force—that continually interact to create and replenish our psychological energy. Yin is our lu- nar, feminine drive for species preservation. Yang is our solar, masculine drive for self-preservation. We func- tion at our best when we avail ourselves of both as we go through each day, allowing them to balance our pri- orities and influence our thoughts, emotions, actions, and relationships. “I’m more open to new ideas and theories that are personally meaningful.” “I’m more open to new ideas and theories that are logical and can be tested using the scientific method.” We’re also born with five basic instincts: nurturance, activity, reflection, sex, and creativity. These, too, im- pact our daily lives in myriad ways. For example, your instinct for nurturance is triggered by hunger pangs. When this happens, your instinct for reflection prompts you to consider options: Shall I finish this project or eat lunch first? Your instinct for activity nudges you to get up, walk into the kitchen, and open the refrigerator door. Your instinct for creativity imagines which ingre- dients would make the most satisfying sandwich. Your instinct for sex urges you to make the most sensually appealing and pleasurable concoction you can think of! Hmmm. Maybe chocolate for dessert? Imagine that all the qualities associated with each in- stinct are arranged on a continuum between a lunar ar- chetype at one pole, and a solar archetype at the other. Your ego has its own comfort spot between them. In the case of your instinct for nurturance, your lunar arche- type is Mother and your solar archetype is Father. Every child is born with an archetypal pattern for Mother and Father. Think of these patterns as images in a child’s col- oring book. Because of our personal experiences with human mothers and fathers, no one fills in those patterns the exact same way. One person might put a smile on Father’s face and a scowl on Mother. Another might do the opposite. You may imagine Mother bustling around in the kitchen and recall wonderful smells. I may have similar associations for Father. And my neighbor may not picture either of them in the kitchen. The fact that archetypes are universal patterns doesn’t mean everyone has the same associations or preferenc- es for them. Cultures vary in their attitudes toward the archetypes, and individuals vary in their experience of them. Take a moment to reflect: Where do you sit be- tween Mother and Father? What images come to mind when you think of Mother? What feelings and emotions? What memories? What qualities do you associate with Mother? Are they mostly positive? Mostly negative? A mixture of both? Now ask yourself the same questions about Father. This exercise may have aroused some painful feelings like resentment, anger, mistrust, fear, bitterness, disgust, or sadness. You probably also felt some positive ones like trust, warmth, comfort, affection, joy, or peace. Did you ever meet someone new and take an instant like or dislike to them because they brought up some of these feelings in you? Of course. Because some people remind you of qualities your personal mother and father had that were instrumental in shaping your own personality. But there’s a whole lot more to the archetypes than what